I've been a long way away from myself, and from my health. Life took such a disastrous turn and it shook me to the core. I have decided to act as if, to pick my trembling spirit up and live. A choice. One I am still able to make, and so I will.
I will be 40 next year. I have always been fit, and tried to care for my body. I have healed body and mind in the past, and I intend to do it once more. Resilience is a real thing. Love can hurt, and love can heal. This time around, I am using this most powerful weapon against myself. Some injury happened along the way. A personal abuse story; one among millions. It won match after match, degrading my mental health. It moved into my spirit and crippled it. It filtered into my hormonal and nervous system. It wrought havoc from within my emotional body. My mind turned against me and my stress level rose and remained at a dangerous high for years. My body has felt beyond my control, and no amount of exercise could reverse the damage that was happening.
I have taken the control back. I am practicing being with myself alone now. I removed myself from a relationship that became toxic with dishonesty and passive aggression. I will no longer be anyone's whipping post, trying to give love to someone who refuses to receive it.
But I have to move slowly. I keep overdoing it, not really understanding just how far out of whack my body has gone. I've jumped back into my activities several times, and hurt my weakened body. I hope that I have learned patience, forgiveness, and to be gentle with myself by now.
No more negative self talk. No more should-ing on my body. No more straining to hurry up and see results. This is a lifestyle move. For my mental well being.
I began today with just thirty minutes of walking on a treadmill. It actually hurt.
I can't really bear to be seen today. I have a lot of these days lately. So I can't really take myself out to walk in the streets, even though the weather is fine as can be. I hid myself in a corner at the rec centre gym, wedged between windows, watching mountains, not looking at anyone, and pretending no one could see me.
I had a decent soundtrack. Some Eliot Goldenthal for the first five minutes. Some Young Men Dead, for the next five, then some Children- serious Advanced Mind Control- which finally made me get a stoke on as I watched the clouds change over the mountains ahead of me. Got stabbing pain in first my right knee, then that went away and became a cramping in my left shin, a feeling like I was pushing too hard, so I slowed it back down. Then it moved to my left knee. I worked really hard to manage my mean thoughts as that voice in there started cussing out my weakness again.
It's been a long hard road, and I've ridden so much of it out hiding in bed. I have to let go of the idea that I should be in some kind of physical bracket just because I once was.
It's done now. I did it. It feels good, too. Day one of however many. We'll see.
I want a love I can feel. And I'm going to start right here with my self.
I've learned integrity of spirit and self respect over these past difficult few years, so I'm not starting from scratch at least. But it doesn't mean this is easy.
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